Hi, I should’ve written this, like, two months ago, but seeing as it’s National Masturbation Month, I find this appropriate.
I don’t know about you, but I think it’s a little sad that people still need seminars such as Orchestrating Orgasms. Not that it’s not a wonderful program—it is—but I think the fact that the seminar mostly concentrated on female orgasms is very telling.
I think part of the reason is the fact that female masturbation is completely taboo, but male masturbation is not. Another thing is the fact that male anatomy is very clearly mapped out, but most women don’t know how their own bodies work.
Both men and women need to be taught about female orgasms. I know, at least, that my ex desperately needed to be taught how my body works. (He got most of his moves from porn and was confused when I didn’t moan in ecstasy.)
“Foreplay is a concept created for male purposes, but works to the disadvantage of many women, since as soon as the woman is aroused the man changes to vaginal stimulation, leaving her both aroused and unsatisfied” (Koedt 187).
The fact that many men are not sure where the clit even is is phenomenally sad. The fact that my ex thought my orgasms were not very important is another sad thing. I guess the fact that I never really complained contributed to that.
I put his pleasure first and he put his own pleasure first, as well. Why was I with him, oh my God. Anyway, during the seminar, we busted porn myths, went over proper anatomy, and for once in my life, I felt comfortable with myself. It’s sad that this seminar is necessary, but I’m really glad that it exists.